beholding the threshold

Nina’s Story

Marianne Dietzel Author Laughing in a Waterfall A Mother’s Memoir PUBLISHED 2010 Excerpt From LAUGHING IN A WATERFALL Arrival Finally, after 8:00 pm, Stu, Dennis, and I went to the Elinson’s and found a house full of high school students waiting together. Flowers had already started arriving. We met many of Nina and Kirsten’s […]

Paul’s Story

In 1995, when my first husband Paul was dying in the hospital, we knew we wanted to have the privilege of taking care of his body, and having a home vigil. We didn’t know if we could do it, and we didn’t know how to do it. While I was at the hospital 24 hrs. […]

Important facts about home death care and vigils

The reasons for caring for our own after they have passed: We can be in charge, and make the decisions that are right for our family (within legal limits). It allows more time for close family and friends to have a safe and known environment to say goodbye.. This promotes closure, and can shift the […]

Deborah’s Home Death and Vigil 2008

THE HOME DEATH AND VIGIL FOR DEBORAH Embracing death with grace, dignity and faith by Lauren Carlson-Vohs (a reflection on Deborah’s passing and vigil from a good friend) A dear friend’s valiant journey with cancer ended recently. Only in the last days before her passing did she reluctantly let go of her steadfast resolve that […]

She Would Draw Flowers

SHE WOULD DRAW FLOWERS by Kirsten Savitri Bergh. Please visit for more information about this book. This poetry book, written by a 17 year “young”woman, embraces life, death and love in a way that invites us in. Authentic, light-filled and down to earth. FIFTH EDITION  BEING PUBLISHED 2009 with NEW CHAPTER   More poetry and […]

Kirsten’s Story

In 1996, my daughter Kirsten Bergh,17, and her dear friend Nina Dietzel, 18, died in an auto accident in New York state, where they were attending a Waldorf High School. I was in that accident. A home vigil was held for them in Harlemville New York, and the Twin Cities Waldorf Community came together here […]

Utne Reader Article on Jack

To Live With No Regrets By Nina Utne, Utne magazine September / October 2005   Death is a transition for the dying — and for those left behind I recently stopped by the house of our friends Jack Heckelman and Linda Bergh for an evening of singing and music. Like the others gathered there, I […]

Jack’s Ethical Will

THE ETHICAL WILL OF T. JACK HECKELMAN I have been privileged beyond belief to have lived a wonderful life – a life of excitement, adventure, fulfillment and service. I have lived many places throughout the United States, as well as Japan, Indonesia, Egypt, Morocco, Alaska, and Hawaii and have been in 55 countries in the […]

Jack’s Life Story

Theodore Jack Heckelman January 23,1923, Los Angeles Ca – April 24, 2005 Minneapolis MN Jack Heckelman’s great love and concern for the earth led to a life of 50 years of environmental and social justice activism. He was a world traveler and enjoyed living in the fascinating cultures of Japan , Indonesia , and Egypt […]

Linda’s Life Story

“…In truth, it is life that gives unto life…[we] are but witnesses.” Kahlil Gibran “Oh, I am so glad that you are taking the canoe out onto the water again.” I smiled as we lifted the craft from its nest of grasses—it was like Linda to express gratitude for this moment. Was it not she […]

After Death Care for Jack

Jack Heckelman When my second husband, Jack Heckelman, died recently, he had thought about his plans, and he knew that he wanted to have a home vigil, and wanted to be cremated. Even so, we had not made exact plans for taking care of his body after death. We had been so busy living, and […]

Jack and Linda’s Conscious Cancer Journey

I met Jack in 1998, three years after the death of my first husband, and two years after the death of my daughter. It was wonderful to fall in love again. We were married in 2002. Two years later, August 2004, Jack was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer. Jack lived eight months after the cancer […]